Valued Leaders Talk Sportsmanship
April 12, 2013
By Rob Kaminski
MHSAA benchmarks editor
Anyone who has attended an MHSAA sporting event has undoubtedly heard the public address announcements touting sportsmanship.
Sportsmanship is one of many lessons taught through school sports. But are today’s student-athletes the willing pupils in the subject? Or are too many kids opting for elective courses in showmanship offered via YouTube and cable networks?
While many involved in high school athletics have noticed a decline in sportsmanship, it’s not too late to inject this valuable ingredient back into our games. But efforts need to begin at the local level, and the scholastic environment needs to supplant community venues where poor sportsmanship often flourishes.
Seventeen coaches from all over the state chipped in to a benchmarks town hall discussion on sportsmanship.
East Kentwood’s Dave Emeott: “I think it is easy to see that sportsmanship is at least diminished. I think sportsmanship starts in the home, but we cannot always depend on the household to teach these lessons. As we sit in the stands, we realize that if this is where they learn it, then we need to get to work. I think we need to teach parents what a good sport looks like, as well as students. It is apparent that students will be the kind of sports they are permitted to be. Most coaches want good sportsmanship, but struggle with the balance of teaching character and winning or losing.”
Middleville Thornapple-Kellogg’s Tamara Benjamin: “Sportsmanship could be endangered. If a parent is allowed to sit in the stands and berate coaches, officials, and other athletes, it’s difficult for our students to see that this behavior is wrong because it is being tolerated. My expectations for our girls’ behavior are made clear the first day of practice. I hold them accountable for themselves, and we go forward each day.”
Holland’s Don Kimble: “I believe that it starts at home; always looking for a reason for failure opens the door to unsportsmanlike behavior. On our team, sportsmanship is stressed within the team first; if you cannot be a sportsman to your teammates, then you cannot be to others.”
Grand Haven’s Kimberly Vincent: “We’re all about sportsmanship and work with students and parents to set expectations. There are too many people pointing fingers at other people about this subject, and I think coaches have to set the example.”
Battle Creek Pennfield’s Mike Roach: “Youth sports programs need to concentrate on sportsmanship and the fact that there are winners and losers in sports. By not keeping score, the kids do not learn how to win, nor do they learn how to handle losing. Keep score. Teach kids that it is not the end of the world to lose, but be gracious in winning and losing.”
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It could be true that much of the focus on poor sportsmanship is a result of just that: the spotlight on poor sportsmanship, rather than the good.
Thornapple-Kellogg’s Abby Kanitz: “I think that too much focus is put on the unsportsmanlike situations. There is much more good out there than bad; it just doesn't make for great stories. It does not take much more than one bad situation to ruin a game, competition or meet. I think sportsmanship comes from the coach. If your athletes know you have high expectations in this area, then their parents will know, too.”
Allegan’s Gary Ellis: “Sportsmanship is alive and well, though it is under attack. Students are exposed to so many examples of poor to horrendous sportsmanship on TV, that it seems to be the norm.”
Bloomfield Hills Andover’s David Zulkiewski: “I see positive sportsmanship every day with my athletes, and that’s because we focus on it and make it part of our daily practice and competition. Our team is much more than swimming or diving; it’s about excelling at life. So many of our kids will not compete in athletics after high school, so we try to give them skills they can use in the real world. Being a good sport is one of those skills.”
Grand Haven’s James Richardson: “Kids want and need structure, and will uphold the guidelines as long as they are clearly defined and enforced consistently. As coaches we need to build relationships with the kids and teach them proper behavior, and serve as models for them.”
Holt’s Mike Van Antwerp: “Sportsmanship is still around. If kids respect their opponents as individuals, they are good sports. Most of them would get along well if they were on the same team, so it’s important they realize that. The kids they play against are no different from them. If they respect the game, respecting their opponent follows.”
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To be sure, no coach worth his or her clipboard sets out to allow poor sportsmanship. But emphasizing proper conduct early and often should be as essential as conducting tryouts.
Munising’s Cathy Mutter: “Sportsmanship is an important part of high school sports and life in general. I always tell my athletes, ‘You do not deserve; you earn. You have to work hard, be positive and be fair.’ I teach them to strive to be the best they can be on the team, in the classroom, at the jobs they have, and at home in their family life. Many programs struggle due to the fact they do not work together as a unit. You are only as strong as your weakest link.”
Rockford’s Ed Van Portfliet: “The O-K Conference and the member schools have done a great job of promoting sportsmanship, and I think it’s alive and well in our area. We teach our players it’s important to play hard, but they also have to respect their opponent and the game. We don’t tolerate actions or play from our players that would be considered disrespectful or detrimental to the game.”
Warren Regina’s Diane Laffey: “We always talk sportsmanship at our team meetings, our parent meetings and our coaches meetings. I guess it is an endangered species in some areas – but I do not feel it has gotten anywhere near that point at our school. I make every effort to make sure that our athletes, teams, coaches and parents keep sportsmanship at the top of our list.”
Allegan’s Ellis: “Leagues have a responsibility to educate their students about proper behavior at high school athletic events and how to treat their opponents. Schools need to develop leaders – on teams and in the stands – who set the tone at contests. The biggest trophy given out at our year-end awards night is the sportsmanship trophy.”
Marshall’s Sue Hutchings: “Sportsmanship starts with the coaching staff respecting the players and hammering the philosophy home. If one of our players exhibits bad sportsmanship, they are taken out of the competition and made to apologize. And trust me, it has happened. Our conference coaches are all pretty tight and have worked together for a number of years. We all share the same philosophy and have very, very little trouble with bad sportsmanship.”
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Sometimes, proper sportsmanship is simply woven into the fabric of a given sport.
Grand Rapids Forest Hills Northern/Forest Hills Eastern’s Brian Telzerow: “Sportsmanship in golf is the leader in integrity. There is no other sport that is as self-policing as is golf. The young men and women must play with honor and integrity, calling penalties on themselves with no referees present. There is no entitlement here. After we play, players shake hands with all other competitors in their groups. We also make it a practice to say thanks to the host team and to the host course personnel. This is intentional to instill gratitude for the privilege of playing this sport.”
Portland’s Jim Niebling: “Sportsmanship may very well be endangered, but not in high school tennis and certainly not on our teams in Portland. Just this season my No. 1 singles player was playing his arch rival in the league championship match. They had gone back and forth for years and both knew the implication of winning the match for the upcoming Regional and Final tournaments where they were surely going to have to play again. The loser would be seeded lower and would have decidedly more difficult draws. But when the other player, up a set, began to cramp in the second set, looking like he may not be able to finish the match, my player walked to his cooler, pulled out a Gatorade and handed it to his opponent.
“My player ended up losing that match, and he knew that was a possibility when he handed his opponent that Gatorade. If that’s not sportsmanship, I don’t know what is.”
Grand Haven’s Richardson: “Sportsmanship is promoted on our team because in wrestling we are only in charge of ourselves and our actions. It’s a sport that holds individuals accountable. It is difficult in our sport to place blame on others.”
Grand Rapids Kenowa Hills/Grandville’s Brenda McDonald: “I always have my girls practice good sportsmanship. They always thank the home team or say, ‘Good job,’ to the opposing team. Many of the girls know the girls on other teams from previous gymnastics classes, so they enjoy seeing them again.”
High School Coaches Survey Identifies Parental Concerns
More than 3,000 high school coaches and athletic directors responded to a nationwide survey conducted by Growing Great Relationships (GGR) in cooperation with the National High School Coaches Association (NHSCA). The purpose of the survey was to understand what coaches and athletic directors see as their greatest needs concerning coach-parent and coach-athlete communication and relationships. GGR and NHSCA will use the results to design training and programs that address the identified needs.
The first section of the survey addressed issues surrounding parents of athletes. The first question asked coaches about their greatest concerns dealing with parents. More than 50 percent indicated over-involved parents as their No. 1 concern.
The second question asked coaches what they think parents are most concerned about. Overwhelmingly, nearly 80 percent reported the child’s amount of playing time as their perception of a parent’s biggest issue.
The next question asked coaches who are the most difficult parents. Athlete “wanna bes” were identified by 55 percent of the respondents.
Coaches then were asked what parents should do to support them. More than 70 percent indicated keeping them informed of personal difficulties their child was having at home. This was followed by 63 percent asking parents not to use social media regarding the team, or to gossip about the team or the coach’s expertise. Athletic directors’ responses were similar but with different percentages. Nearly 73 percent ranked not using social media or gossip about the team as the most important.
The second section of the survey asked coaches about their greatest concerns regarding relationships with their athletes. The first question asked coaches about the challenges they face communicating with student-athletes. Nearly 58 percent indicated an athlete receiving contradictory advice from parents and other coaches/advisers. This was followed closely with 55 percent stating an athlete’s inflated belief about his or her ability. Athletic director responses were similar but with somewhat different percentages. The greatest response, 70 percent, was the athlete receiving contradictory advice.
The second question asked the coaches for other factors interfering with their relationships with their student-athletes. The factor indicated by 58 percent of coaches was an athlete over-burdened with competing school demands (clubs, academics). For this particular question, the response from the athletic directors closely matched the coaches.
Athletic directors were asked that in their role what are their greatest concerns dealing with parents and athletes. The most frequent answer by 76 percent of athletic directors was parents bypassing coaches to complain directly to them.
In addition, nearly 500 coaches and athletic directors wrote in additional concerns that they have in their ability to communicate and work with athletes and their parents.
– Richard & Jane: Relationship Coaching
2024 Scholar-Athlete Award Recipients Announced in Class C & D
By
Geoff Kimmerly
MHSAA.com senior editor
February 5, 2024
The Michigan High School Athletic Association has selected 10 student-athletes from Class C and D member schools to receive scholarships through the MHSAA/Farm Bureau Insurance Scholar-Athlete Award program.
Farm Bureau Insurance, in its 35th year of sponsoring the award, will give $2,000 college scholarships to 32 individuals who represent their member schools in at least one sport in which the Association sponsors a postseason tournament. The first 30 scholarships are awarded proportionately by school classification and the number of student-athletes involved in those classes; also, there are two at-large honorees who can come from any classification.
Students applying for the Scholar-Athlete Award must be carrying at least a 3.5 (on a 4.0 scale) grade-point average and have previously won a letter in a varsity sport in which the Michigan High School Athletic Association sponsors a postseason tournament. Other requirements for the applicants were to show active participation in other school and community activities and produce an essay on the importance of sportsmanship in educational athletics.
The 32 scholarship recipients will be recognized March 16 during the MHSAA Boys Basketball Finals at the Breslin Student Events Center in East Lansing.
The Class C Scholar-Athlete Award honorees are Sara Dammann, New Lothrop; Kylie Ott, Bridgman; Brooke Spitzley, Pewamo-Westphalia; Tristan B. Harbaugh, Gobles; Benjamin March, St. Louis; and Ryin Ruddy, Ottawa Lake Whiteford.
The Class D Scholar-Athlete Award recipients are Mallory Lowe, Leland; Alivia Salenbien, Britton Deerfield; Ridley Fast, Hillsdale Academy; and Ben McCaw, Lawrence.
Overviews of the scholarship recipients of the Class C Scholar-Athlete Award follow. A quote from each recipient's essay also is included:
Sara Dammann, New Lothrop
Ran four seasons of cross country and will play her fourth season of varsity softball this spring. Raced at the MHSAA Lower Peninsula Cross Country Finals this past fall and earned all-state honorable mention in softball as a junior. Named National Merit Scholarship semifinalist and earned College Board National Rural and Small Town Award. Participated in Shiawassee Scholars Class of 2024 program throughout high school, and is participating in second year of National Honor Society. Has participated in FFA (Future Farmers of America) throughout high school as well, earning state championships for prepared public speaking and parliamentary procedure and serving as her school chapter’s vice president and also region’s vice president. Participating in third year of quiz bowl and has served as captain multiple years. Served two years on student council and as a youth sports umpire throughout high school, and also participates in church youth group and serves as lector. Is undecided where she will attend college but intends to study something in a business-related field.
Essay Quote: “This lesson on teamwork, learned through educational athletics, is also imperative in life. Sure, individual successes are important, but to make the positive impact the world needs, we … need to work together to use our individual strengths to build a better tomorrow. We need to support one another's talents and focus on overcoming challenges together, as a team.”
Kylie Ott, Bridgman
Played four seasons of varsity volleyball, is playing her second of varsity basketball and will compete in her fourth of track & field this spring. Earned all-conference recognition in track four times and also academic all-state in that sport. Received all-conference honorable mention in volleyball. Served as captain of volleyball and basketball teams. Participating in fourth year of student senate and class advisory, and has served as senate and class president. Participating in second year of National Honor Society and has served as vice president of her chapter, and fourth year of key club and has served president of that organization as well. Participating in fourth year of DECA, and has served as secretary. Will attend Purdue University and study biomedical engineering.
Essay Quote: At first sight of the word ‘sportsmanship,’ you may visualize the act of helping another player up after a fall or encouraging teammates after mistakes. However, true sportsmanship isn’t limited by one public gesture, but rather, a consistent pursuit of little things even when no one is watching. It is a moral behavior that is learned and taught by example and comes not by desire for appraisal but by an adamant passion for the game.”
Brooke Spitzley, Pewamo-Westphalia
Played two seasons of varsity golf, will play third of varsity softball in the spring, and also played three seasons of varsity basketball. Qualified for MHSAA Finals in golf and earned all-area honors multiple seasons in softball. Earned academic all-state honors in golf and basketball. Served as captain of softball and golf teams, and helped found the school’s girls golf program. Participating in second year of National Honor Society, and as chapter president, and serving in first year on student council and as treasurer. Serving as co-editor of yearbook in second year on staff, and as social media manager for multiple student groups. Participating in third years of Student Voice and PLANK student support program, and first as part of P-W Students Take Charge. Will attend University of South Florida and study medical biology.
Essay Quote: “It is hard for athletes to realize that there is more to life than success in a sport; sportsmanship often puts this into perspective. Helping an opponent off the ground, shaking hands, even a meaningful “good job” allows an athlete to take a step back from the competitive nature they are taught and realize the big picture … that there is more to life than the stat book that one’s self-worth is derived from.”
Tristan B. Harbaugh, Gobles
Played three seasons of varsity football, is playing his third of varsity basketball and will play his fourth of varsity baseball this spring. Earned all-league in football and basketball and academic all-state in football and baseball, and was named a Michigan High School Football Coaches Association scholar-athlete. Served as captain of all three high school teams. Participating in third year of National Honor Society and fourth on student leadership team, and playing third year in school marching/concert/jazz band. Serving as first chair for percussion and is a three-time band section leader. Served as youth sports volunteer throughout high school and tutor the last two years. Will attend University of Michigan and study biomedical engineering.
Essay Quote: “… This singular experience opened my eyes to the true meaning of sportsmanship, and how impactful sports could be when the accomplishments of character are discussed, and when sportsmanship is about building people up, teammates, opponents, and even people in the stands who see something special taking place on the field. The values that high school sports teach and the experiences they provide, like teamwork, leadership, and work ethic, can bring out the best in athletes.”
Ben March, St. Louis
Ran four seasons of cross country, is competing in his fourth of varsity wrestling and will compete in his fourth of track & field this spring. Earned all-state all four seasons and twice won Regional championships in cross country, helping that team to Lower Peninsula Division 3 Finals championships in 2020 and 2021. Earned all-league honorable mention twice and won a District title in wrestling, helping that team to two Regional championships, and earned multiple league and regional honors and made all-state as part of a relay in track. Earned academic all-state in cross country and track and has served as captain of cross country and wrestling teams multiple seasons. Participating in third year of Business Professionals of America, and has served as secretary, and is participating in second year of Rotary Interact and has served as treasurer. Earned Rotary Youth Leadership Award and placed third in region for BPA. Will attend Lansing Community College and study business.
Essay Quote: “While the accomplishments of the student-athletes who earned these trophies have long since been forgotten, the virtues of sportsmanship like fairness, integrity, courage, persistence, responsibility, and respect that were gained from participating in high school athletics have been carried with them into adulthood. It gave them the tools needed to positively impact their families and coworkers long after their high school athletic careers were done.”
Ryin Ruddy, Ottawa Lake Whiteford
Played four seasons of varsity football, is playing his third of varsity basketball, will play his fourth of varsity baseball in the spring and compete in second of track & field as well. Earned all-state in football the last two seasons and helped Whiteford to 2022 Division 8 title. Earned all-state in track in four events. Earned academic all-state in football and track also league scholar athlete honors in all four sports, and was named National Football Foundation scholar athlete. Served as football team captain. Serving fourth year on student council and participating in second year of National Honor Society. Has participated throughout high school in FFA (Future Farmers of America) and Compelled Youth, and also will participate in spring musical for fourth time. Will attend Hillsdale College and study biochemistry.
Essay Quote: “Sportsmanship is about exercising self-control. This includes curbing emotions, controlling one’s tongue, and keeping negative body language in check. Sportsmanship is obviously about saying ‘good game,’ but it is also about respecting yourself, regimenting your life, and having the self-discipline to put yourself into a position to succeed in everything you do. Even when a loss is inevitable, great sportsmanship is about being genuinely happy when someone else succeeds, looking a competitor in the eye and congratulating them on a job well done.”
Other Class C girls finalists for the Scholar-Athlete Award were Mikaela Ann Boyle, Bad Axe; Allison Bowles, Clinton; Jaida Schulte, Elk Rapids; Lauren Borsenik, Hemlock; Mariah Thompson, Houghton Lake; Lola Korpi, Ishpeming; Alexis Ewing, Jonesville; Adilyn Anne Ruggles, Marlette; and Claire Neumann, Saginaw Valley Lutheran.
Other Class C boys finalists for the Scholar-Athlete Award were Carter Upper, Alcona; Payton Butkovich, Beal City; Jamisen Latham, Beal City; Niko Burgoon, Iron Mountain; Kannon Duffing, Manchester; Brad H. McNeill, Montrose; Jack Lantz, New Buffalo; Julian Ahluwalia, Traverse City St. Francis; and Landen Muska, Vassar.
Overviews of the scholarship recipients of the Class D Scholar-Athlete Award follow. A quote from each recipient's essay also is included:
Mallory Lowe, Leland
Played three seasons of varsity volleyball, is playing her third of varsity basketball and will play her fourth of varsity soccer this spring. Helped volleyball team to Division 4 runner-up finish this past fall, making the all-state third team and earning all-state academic recognition. Earned all-conference honorable mention in basketball and helped soccer team to Northwest Conference co-championship in 2023. Also part of academic all-state basketball teams the last two seasons. Serving as captain of all three teams as a senior and also was basketball captain as a junior. Earned AP Scholar recognition and completed International Baccalaureate Middle Years Programme. Carries a 3.99 grade-point average and is participating in third years of National Honor Society and National Art Honor Society, including as president of school’s NAHS. Participating in fourth years of student council and Grand Traverse Regional Community Foundation Youth Advisory Council, with leadership positions in both. Served as volunteer volleyball and basketball coach throughout high school and mentor for student with Type 1 diabetes. Will attend University of Michigan but is undecided on her field of study.
Essay Quote: “We have learned valuable lessons including teamwork, effort, grace, dignity and fair play that will leave a lasting impression on our character, guiding us not only in athletics but also in life. This powerful connection reminds us that how we play and how we treat our fellow athletes matters so much more than the final score.”
Alivia Salenbien, Britton Deerfield
Played three seasons of varsity volleyball, is playing her fourth of varsity basketball and will compete in her fourth of track & field this spring; also played on the boys varsity golf team as a junior. Earned all-county honorable mention for basketball as a junior and is a five-time Regional medalist in track & field. Earned scholar-athlete honors in multiple sports and served as captain for volleyball and basketball teams. Participating in third year of National Honor Society, serving as chapter president, and third year of student government serving as class vice president. Participated in American Legion Girls State and earned girls nation runner-up finish. Teaching church elementary catechism class for third year. Is undecided where she will attend college but intends to study early childhood education.
Essay Quote: “Balancing school, home life, and sports are difficult tasks. However, growing up in that scene, I thought that doing all these activities was the only way to a successful life. … But now, as a senior in high school looking back at my time at Britton Deerfield, I realize this could not be farther from the truth. Nobody judged whether I was good at the sports I played or not. Nobody judged whether I was at the top of the class or the bottom. Nobody judged how well I could balance my life. What people will remember about me when I leave high school is my sportsmanship.”
Ridley Fast, Hillsdale Academy
Played four seasons of varsity soccer, is playing his third of varsity basketball and will play his fourth of varsity golf this spring; also competed in track & field as a freshman. Made all-state second team for soccer in the fall and helped team to four District championships. Earned all-area in basketball and helped that team to two league and two District titles, and made all-state first team in golf as a junior in helping that team to league and Regional titles. Earned all-region as Hillsdale Academy won 2021 Michigan Interscholastic Track Coaches Association team state championship. Earned academic all-state recognition in soccer and golf. Served as co-captain for soccer, basketball and golf. Participating in fourth years of student council, service club and drama club and second of National Honor Society, and is dually enrolled at Hillsdale College. Also participates in finance club and concert choir. Has served as student council vice president and league’s leadership conference representative. Will attend Trine University and study business and engineering.
Essay Quote: “I have played with my fair share of cheating opponents, but I am proud to say that I have never cheated, for I know I could not live with myself if I ever tried to do it. Cheating is caring more about results than the process, and the point of sports is to savor and endure the process and struggle. … Sportsmanship is the whole idea of competition itself; the concept of giving your best to see who comes out on top.”
Ben McCaw, Lawrence
Played four seasons of varsity football, is playing his second of varsity basketball, will play his third of varsity baseball this spring and also will return for his third of track & field. Earned first-team all-league and academic all-state recognition in football this past fall, second team all-league and all-academic with his basketball team as a junior, and selected for the all-state second team in baseball last spring. Serving as varsity team captain for the second season for all three sports. Earned College Board National Rural and Small Town Award and dually enrolled at Kalamazoo Valley Community College. Serving as student council secretary after serving as class president three years, and participating in third years of National Honor Society and pep club. Volunteered throughout high school with local youth basketball, baseball and softball programs. Is undecided where he will attend college but intends to study marketing.
Essay Quote: “Sportsmanship is important; however, it cannot be forced – it must be chosen. It is encouraged by the MHSAA at every coin toss meeting between captains, but there are few rules that prevent poor sportsmanship. This is a good thing, sportsmanship should be a choice; otherwise, it does not properly demonstrate our character. Our sportsmanship reflects who we are: on the field, in the classroom, and in life.”
Other Class D girls finalists for the Scholar-Athlete Award were Makenzee Grimm, Battle Creek St. Philip; Alayna Salenbien, Britton Deerfield; Caroline Beggs, Clarkston Everest Collegiate; Rachel Case, Kimball New Life Christian; Bonnie Kiger, Marion; and Hazel Hysell, St. Joseph Our Lady of the Lake Catholic.
Other Class D boys finalists for the Scholar-Athlete Award were Samuel Wallace Lutz, Adrian Lenawee Christian; Jürgen Griswold, Ellsworth; Christian Besonen, Ewen-Trout Creek; Trenton Taratuta, Hillman; Nathan Mihills, Marcellus; and Clayton Shoup, Mason County Eastern.
The Class B scholarship award recipients will be announced Feb. 13, and the Class A honorees will be announced Feb. 20.
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