Butterflies and Helicopters
July 9, 2014
I’m doing as much as I know how to attract butterflies to my garden. For example, I’ve planted a butterfly bush and milkweed plants. I do this because these plants are supposed to attract butterflies and bees, and I know butterflies and bees are essential to producing vegetables.
One of the greatest miracles any person can observe is to watch a butterfly emerge from a cocoon. It was as wondrous to me last summer as the first time I saw it occur when I was a young child, when I first saw a butterfly emerge with damp, shriveled wings.
I was told then that we shouldn’t interfere, that we shouldn’t help the butterfly escape the cocoon and shouldn’t help spread the wings. We had to let the butterfly struggle. We were instructed that the struggle would give strength to the wings, and that would be essential to the butterfly’s survival.
Childhood is much like this, but too often helicopter parents intervene and interfere with the growth process and, ultimately, weaken their children’s ability to fend for themselves, to overcome adversity and to take flight.
Helicopter parents endanger our butterfly children.
Participation in Perspective
March 4, 2016
In school sports, we promote playing more than winning.
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We know that kids would rather play on a losing team than only sit and watch on a winning team.
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We know that, more than winning, kids play for fun, friendships and fitness ... for the “Fs” more than the “Ws.”
But participation alone is not our goal in school sports. The goal is high participation with high standards.
Our mission is to increase participation and to raise standards, including standards of eligibility, conduct and care.
We know that as we raise such standards for participation, we tend to raise the value of participation for students, schools and society.